Not bonding with baby
skin to skin
Its common to not bond with your baby right away. It happens quite often. So why is know one talking about it? Women fear they will be judged or something is wrong with them. The best way to bond with your baby, is skin to skin contact, staring into babies eyes and having baby mock your facial expressions. This can be helpful for mom, dad, and siblings. Moms, you will eventually bond with your baby. Give it time. Everything will be ok.
Breastfeeding is hard
We are all told breastfeeding is the most natural thing in motherhood. Thats not the case for many. Latch and position are important. Most moms can’t throw their baby on a breast and expect perfect feedings. If you are having troubles breastfeeding, no worries, plenty of expertise around to help. The most helpful tip we can offer is lie down on back and have baby find your nipple. They can smell that delicious milk and become very determined. If breastfeeding is painful, unlatch and try again. You want babies mouth wide and around most of the nipple. Its a common struggle, you are not alone. It will get better.
Postpartum depression affects 1 in 7 women. Thats a huge amount of women struggling and being hush hush about it. It’s ok to be depressed after your baby arrives. Its common. Solution seeking should be your first priority. Talking to your doctor and family about your depression will open up some helpful solutions. You will get past your depression, and love your baby. This feeling is not permanent. Sleep is a huge impact on depression. Make sure you are taking care of yourself as well. If you have feelings of hurting yourself or your baby you should call 911 and or your doctor immediately.
Everybody has a “right” opinion
Everybody has an opinion or experience they want to share with you. How to swaddle or not to swaddle, bathe, give a binky, don’t give a binky. You will always be told what you are doing wrong and rarely what you are doing right. Most people are genuinely trying to be helpful. Do your own research, take into consideration of what others suggest and decide as a family whats best for you and your family. Parenting is hard at all stages. You’re doing a great job!
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